Butterflies and love and dating
I was on the road to getting better, living better, and it was then that I learned a lesson many who have come before me have experienced and written about time and time again: when you're not looking, when you're least expecting it, love will strike like a lightening bolt into your life, illuminating everything you value and casting darkness on all things you need not worry about.
For some, love comes in quietly, like a gentle summer rain, arriving slowly drop-by-drop.
For others -- for me -- it came in with a booming presence, announcing itself loudly, violently.
Like a crash of thunder in the middle of a deep sleep, it woke me and I was suddenly sitting upright in my bed, looking wide-eyed all around me, and thinking, "What was ?!
“So, I heard your boyfriend is cute,” my friend said to me when we got together two weeks ago.
We hadn’t seen each other since last year, a shocking realization considering we live only 20 miles apart, and were catching up before an open mic event in the Big City. ” All of my friends are happy to learn I’ve met a great man, but let me tell you – it’s the married ones who know they’ll never have to experience the awkwardness of a first date again who seem to love to hear about my dating life most of all.
Perhaps you worry excessively about what your significant other thinks, or you feel like you need to be perfect when he or she is around.
Since that fateful day when he walked into the airport and into my life, I've learned so much about myself, about my life, about what it means to truly, honestly, openly love.(For more on some of the lessons I've learned, check out the two-part series 30 Lessons I Learned From Love.) And, after a year of this love, I can honestly say that the excitement of the beginning, the thrill of those early days with him, is still there. Like any great love, there have been some challenges over the past year, but none of the difficulties we've faced have challenged the way we feel for each other.I still feel a jolt of happiness when I look at him.You may feel self-conscious with this person, or even panic when things go wrong.This is not how one should feel in a secure, loving, and supportive relationship.